Month: May 2019

Healing Is…

Healing is learning to love yourself bit by bit.

Healing is not knowing when you will feel better but learning to trust the journey and know that life is happening for you, not to you.

Healing is learning that blaming and complaining about others, the situation, the place, the obstacles, life in general, is all a distraction.

Healing is not getting triggered by the same things that used to drive you crazy.

Healing is learning to pause when life feels too much, too busy or too overwhelming.

Healing is knowing what heals you, what is your medicine and coming back to it again and again.

Healing is learning that what heals you changes moment to moment.

Healing is realizing that it is your responsibility to pause, check-in, name and reach for what you need with or without help.

Healing is knowing that your core wounds determine your core needs.

Healing is learning to understand life in an entirely new, paradoxical, symbolic, chaotic, probabilistic and exciting way.

Healing is learning, growing and then learning some more.

Healing is letting go of control.

Healing is establishing healthy boundaries when you need them.

Healing is being OK with what was, what is and what might be.

Healing is releasing the fear, the stuckness, the anxiety, the constriction, the avoidance and letting love flow through you.

Healing is always available to you no matter who or where you are. ​If you need help starting or continuing on your healing journey, contact me.

With love and light,

Damla

Layers Of Healing

I had an amazing conversation with Micayla Jean and Sean Adam for the Wild Hearts Podcast. We talked all about what it means to heal and how to heal, why it is so challenging to heal, and the many layers of healing our physical, emotional and energetic bodies. I even did a mini-energy reading of them towards the end. Make sure to watch it until the end!

Eda Aktekin – Choosing Your Story

In this Conversations With Healers episode, my guest is my 7-year-old daughter Eda Aktekin, an artist, storyteller, cat and unicorn lover, and passionate nature and Earth advocate. I wanted to have this conversation with Eda to capture her 7-year-old wisdom and light, and to honor the essence of ‘mom’ in all of us. Eda had a lot to say about:

  • how healing means taking care of nature for her,
  • why she loves art and the beauty of creating something based on your imagination (like caticorns aka cat unicorns with wings),
  • her favorite way to make art (think of your favorite animal and make it more fun by adding rainbows and unicorns),
  • her process for writing stories and how she adds problems into her stories to make them more interesting, and what cupcakes can teach us about finishing stories,
  • what she thinks I do in my healing work,
  • what points you can use for a simplified acupressure tapping for kids, and when to use tapping,
  • her definition of meditation = doing stuff that you like,
  • how she switches her thinking and the stories in her mind when something upsetting happens, and how she doesn’t believe any people or stories that make her not feel good,
  • what to do when people around you are mean or upset, and how it has nothing to do with you,
  • what she recommends me to be a better parent,
  • what she is looking forward to this summer (including this Turkish food),
  • what we can do to be happy and to enjoy our summer,
  • and what she recommends us to do to be kind to the Earth and the environment.

My favorite healing nugget from Eda is “(People are mean to each other) because they just don’t have a good day. It’s something about them, not us. You can ask what’s wrong or you can just try to ignore it. Maybe talking to the person could make it worse. Wait a few weeks or days and then maybe come back and talk to the person.”

You can find out more about Eda’s art on her Instagram page @artbyeda. You can see lots of examples of caticorns, unicorns and Eda’s love of color in her art.

With this special episode, I would like to wish a happy Mother’s day to you regardless of whether you are a biological mom or not, or regardless of whether you are a female or not. I invite you to honor that part of you that is nurturing, nourishing, and care-taking for you and others. And if you are in the process of making peace with your mother and your mother wounds, or mourning the loss of your physical mother, I hope that you can bring to life that part of you that already knows how to mother yourself.

Eda and I found a wonderful little book called ‘Mom, I wrote a book about you‘. It has lots of little writing prompts that she completed for me. One of my favorite ones is ‘If I had to get scientific about it, I’d say you’re made up of equal parts: (written by Eda) love, meditation and heart’. You can find this book at this link.

If this conversation touched you in any way, inspired you or spoke to you, please share it. You can share it in a conversation, post about it on Facebook or Instagram, or email or text it to your friends and family. We truly appreciate your support in spreading the love and light that we hope to create with these conversations.

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With love and light,

Damla

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Asha Frost – Discovering Your Unique Medicine

In this Conversations With Healers episode, my guest is Asha Frost, Indigenous Medicine Woman, Healer, Soul-seer, and Mentor to other self-healers and healers. Her grandfather has given her the name of ‘Healing Rainbow Medicine Woman’ in their native language, which beautifully summarizes her mission to awaken healers into remembering their unique medicine. Asha and I talked about:

  • her physical and soul healing journey with Lupus,
  • how she came to discover her own unique medicine,
  • the power of ceremony and being in a circle,
  • what she notices and observes in the healers she mentors and what she recommends them,
  • and the unique challenges of being in business as a healer.

My favorite healing nugget from Asha is “We’ve chosen this path (as spiritual entrepreneurs) because we are meant to delve into trust. We are truly meant to learn that surrender piece. … The magic that is working behind the scenes is still happening and we can lean into that.”

You can find out more about Asha and her work at her website and follow her on Instagram. Asha is generously offering a 50% discount to all our listeners for all her Native Healing Meditations found at this link with the coupon code ‘healer’.

If this conversation touched you in any way, inspired you or spoke to you, please share it. You can share it in a conversation, post about it on Facebook or Instagram, or email or text it to your friends and family. We truly appreciate your support in spreading the love and light that we hope to create with these conversations.

Listen to other episodes here.

Subscribe here for future episodes and to receive a practical resource to help you identify your energetic wounds.

With love and light,

Damla

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