I have a deeply personal thing to share with you. Are you ready? Here it goes: my English is not perfect. I grew up in Turkey and Turkish is my mother tongue. In case you have been wondering what it is you hear differently when I speak, I have a Turkish accent. I started to learn English in 6th grade or middle school in Turkey when I was 12 years old. I moved to the US for my MBA in 2002 and have been living here ever since.

Here’s what you need to understand about someone who speaks English or any other language as their second language and especially if they learned it later in life: my English goes out the door when I am tired, when it is the evening, when I get stressed, when I am overwhelmed, when I am sad, etc. Having grown up in Turkey and studied there until the end of college, I count in my mind in Turkish, I mostly dream in Turkish, I curse in Turkish, I measure things metrically in my mind and Turkish is my default language. That said, I also have successfully navigated grad school, working in the corporate world, changing careers and building my own business from scratch through my seemingly imperfect English.

Here’s what I know: I know that some of you listen to me and cringe. You talk to me and you want to immediately put words into my mouth and correct me, or you find yourself editing my words as you read them. I know that this is also how you treat yourself. Nothing is ever good enough. So my heart goes out to you.

I also want you to know that I have some of that self-doubt virus that you have, in me. I find myself reading, re-reading and editing every piece of Facebook post, blog post, email or written material that I write a gazillion times. I had to stop myself from re-recording a 45-minute beautifully recorded meditation because I stumbled on a single word. So I am right there with you judging and criticizing myself.

I once had to leave a creative writing group because they thought my writing was something I should be embarrassed about submitting to the group to be read. What they didn’t know and understand was I had read, re-read and rewritten that piece to the best of my ability a thousand times. My husband once said to me when a corporate employer complained about my accent ‘They should be grateful that they get you in the way that you are with all your gifts.’

Our household is bilingual that means that every single day my brain is firing a whole lot more than a single language speaker. I am deeply creative not only because it is my passion but also because I can think and dream in a completely different language than almost everyone around me and I can bring the gifts of those dreams into my life and work. In addition to English, I also speak a decent amount of German and have even written a graduate thesis in German. I am currently learning Spanish for the pure joy of getting to understand a whole new worldview.

Here’s what I also know: while I work through my mind viruses of ‘I am not good enough’, ‘this is garbage’, ‘who am I to give any advice or write this’, they are not going to stop me from putting what comes through me out there for you. I will keep recording videos, courses, I will keep offering workshops, I will keep working on inspiring you for self-healing and healing with every tool that I have (including my English skills) and at every chance that I get.

The energy and vibration speak louder than words. When I look back at all that I have created and will create I know that what matters most is my willingness to be vulnerable, having a pure intention of healing others and letting those energies speak in the tone of my voice and writing, rather than with the perfection of my punctuation or the accurateness of my grammar.

I want you to sit with this and ask yourself. When do you judge others without knowing who they are and their full story? When do you judge yourself? And if you wish to experience how it feels to be a fish in a sea you weren’t born into, I invite you to try learning a new language to enhance your brain activity and get humbled.

With love and lots of gratitude for you for continuing to listen, watch, read and follow and absorb the energetic contents of my work and for making healing your energetic wounds a priority. 

Damla

In this video I am sharing my own story of coming face to face with all my unmet needs and my discoveries about what needs are, what their layers are and how meeting your needs can contribute to healing your energetic wounds. I also talk about:

– What is the first step in beginning to heal your energetic wounds?
– Why do your needs matter?
– What can you do if you don’t have the time, resources or the energy to tend to your needs?

In this video, I am talking about what your vibrational reality is and how and why you need tools, practices and the occasional help to tend to your vibration.

Learn more about my online course Tending To Your Needs. Tending To Your Needs is an online course to set the foundation for your healing and help you to recognize, name, prioritize and meet your needs with or without help. It is all about learning more about your needs and how to make them a priority. You will learn a variety of tools and practices to be able to address your vibrational needs as they arise.

This course is open for enrollment ONLY THE NEXT SEVEN DAYS until February 20, 2020 ​with introductory pricing of $97. ​

It will never be offered at this price again.

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When is the last time you gave yourself the gift of paying attention to your needs?

How can you tend to your vibrational needs that you don’t have a way to put into words?

When you don’t care for your needs, what are you missing out?

How can you get the support of the universe and your ancestors for tending to your needs?

What can you do to release the resistance between you and prioritizing your needs?

I have been working with all these questions, tumbling with them, dreaming, receiving guidance, and looking for ways to answer them. Through these inquiries I have developed an online course that I believe answers all these questions and makes tools that address all layers of your needs readily available at your fingertips.

Tending To Your Needs is an online course to set the foundation for your healing and help you to recognize, name, prioritize and meet your needs with or without help. I want to help you learn more about how your needs work, what their layers are and how to make them a priority.

When you don’t pay attention to yourself your needs just get louder and more painful to embody. The problem is we don’t have a good understanding of what a need is. Satisfying a need is not the same as self-care. You can actually survive without self-care but you can’t survive or thrive without satisfying your needs. Needs are requirements to live a purposeful and vibrant life.

I have discovered that your needs have layers. Within the needs of the moment are also the needs of the two year old in you, and the needs of your ancestors who went through trauma, loss and migration. Unless you bring a loving attention to all layers of your being, no amount of drinking green juices, walking in nature or taking yoga classes will help you feel better.

You may not be aware that you have needs. We are not taught the language and the ecology of our needs and that we are allowed to have needs. This course is designed to teach you how needs work and how your needs can co-exist with the needs of others in your life

You may be aware of your needs but you are not sure how to satisfy them or how to get past your resistance. You don’t know where to start to prioritize your needs. This course is definitely for you.

You may know about your needs and you may have a few tools to work with them but they don’t always work and you feel like something is missing. You are open to a deeper understanding of your needs and a deeper connection with yourself. This course is the missing link you have been looking for.

I am opening the doors to this course until February 20th, 2020. I decided to offer it at $97 introductory pricing. All the course content is worth over $300. It will never be at this price point again and I have no idea when I will be able to launch it again. The course has five modules (over 3.5 hours of videos) and 8 guided and EFT Tapping meditations (over 4 hours of audio).

When I look at what needs to happen to effectively heal energetic wounds, a clear understanding of how to tend to the layers of your needs comes out as the first step. This is the culmination of all my personal, one-on-one and group healing work. I truly believe that tending to your needs is the first step to begin to heal your energetic wounds. I am a believer in self-healing and this course is designed to empower you to make your needs a priority at your own timing and with effective tools.

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