A Drop of Om

At the end of the day when you are in the midst of your exhaustion, I invite you to pause and remember what matters most. It isn’t what you haven’t accomplished yet or what you have. It isn’t the argument that your mind keeps coming back to. It isn’t money that is or isn’t in your bank account. It is how much you cared, how much you opened up to being loved and how much you loved.

Loving doesn’t mean you do everything that others like. Sometimes loving and being loved involves placing healthy boundaries around your relationship. What is OK and what is not OK to be said and done by both parties? Where are you stepping on each other’s boundaries? Where can you re-establish healthy boundaries that would work for you both?

Loving doesn’t need you to sacrifice yourself to the point of becoming exhausted. It means knowing your limits and making sure that you are not the only one who has an enormous amount of responsibility. It means we don’t ‘help’ each other. All of us living in the same house have and own an equal amount of responsibility for everything we do. We can divide up the tasks according to what we do best. But noone feels like they are drowning under a pile of tasks that they don’t like.

Loving doesn’t mean that you will say yes to everything that is knocking on your door. In fact, you will say more ‘no’s, and you will say more ‘let me check my calendar’s before any ‘yes’s. It also means you will do yourself a favor and clear any electronic news, emails, ideas, apps, social media feeds that are leaving you feeling unnecessarily stretched thin.

Loving doesn’t mean that you have to lock everything inside to the point of numbness or sickness. You will allow yourself to feel what you feel. And sometimes, you will let the people you love or people you trust can support you, to see these feelings. You will share what scares you the most, what you cannot even think about carrying on your shoulders anymore, what’s eating at you day and night that you can’t seem to get to the bottom of.

Loving doesn’t mean that you need to take a bubble bath every single day. There will be days that you do. On the days that you aren’t able to, you will still brew a cup of tea with love and hold it in your hands to feel the warmth, reminding you that this is OK, this will pass and you will still be there to take care of your precious self.

Loving doesn’t mean that you need to be present for your loved ones 24/7. The truth is, they need their own time to grow and learn too. But you will take the 20 minutes you have together, setting aside your phone, shutting down the TV, and you will look into their eyes. You will get interested in their lives and ask probing questions. You will then get excited about what they are excited about. And you will get to know them again and again as both your lives evolve and shift.

May you be loved, may you love deeper than you can imagine, may you navigate your life always and always through the lens of love.

With love and light,

Damla

Stress is a constant companion in our lives. Yet it takes a toll. We all have some tools or strategies to deal with it. But it keeps coming back to haunt us. Part of the reason is the way our lives are set up. Through our work, relationships, and environment, we are constantly bombarded by stress.

As a healer, I am more interested in the other reason: what’s underneath the stress? Which wound is replaying itself every time you get stressed? What strategies that you downloaded from your family or formulated in your early years are no longer helping? And most importantly, are you able to decipher when your stress points you to what in your physical and emotional life needs tending to?

More often than not it is not just the wound energy that needs to be neutralized but also how you deal with it. What strategy have you picked up from your parents, teachers or grandparents that is no longer serving you? What can you change about the way you handle life to not use up all your energy resources? How can you shift your perspective not only for your wounds but also for what you assume cannot be changed (aka your strategies and patterns)?

Here’s what happens when you tend to the wound underneath: suddenly what seems stressful doesn’t affect you the same way. You find yourself more resourceful and a lot more present to be able to deal with whatever life throws at you. With an increased capacity for presence, you are able to see the patterns that come up to the surface. You can then choose a new pattern, a new strategy, a new way to better handle your reality.

With love and light,

Damla

In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.” Albert Camus

It is that time of the year when those of us living in the Northern hemisphere, especially where I am in New England, get to experience being in the depth of winter. If you are someone who gets deep into winter blues, here are some suggestions to turn your experience around into one of grace and ease:

• Tend to your body. Get a blood test to check your Vitamin D levels. Practice daily self-massage to move bodily fluids and prevent stagnation. Make sure you are well hydrated. Your body needs extra love and care in the long winter months.
• Everything you see is you. Pay attention to how you talk about the weather. Is there a way you can energize and lift that conversation from ‘This is such a dreadful weather’ to ‘The cold is refreshing and energizing!’?
• Know when it is not the weather but it is all about your untended to wounds from your past and present. Support your nervous system and clear, expand, and update your energy field daily. I am sharing a free one hour Chakra Bliss Healing recording to support you on your healing journey. You can download it at this link.
• Make the most of it! I love this video about the Danish concept of Hygge, aka the beauty and joy of cozy winters, enjoying real or fake fireplaces, hot drinks and taking comfort in relationships.

What are your favorite ways of being in the depth of winter with joy?

With love and light,

Damla

All you need is here. Life at any given moment brings out the best opportunity for you to see, feel, transform and release your wounds. What comes up right now as an issue in your life or in your chakra system is related to an earlier wound that is coming up to the surface to be healed.

Pay attention to what you wake up with. What keeps appearing in your life to side-track you? Is it health or relationship-related? Is it about your finances? Clearly identify what it is that is asking for and receiving your attention.

Take time to unpack it either by yourself or by the help of someone you trust. Often you have already tried to unpack, resolve, be with or get rid of it by yourself. Perhaps it is time to bring in the help of a healer. My job as a healer is to help you connect the dots and know what is asking you to be healed, and offer you vibrational support and tools to transform it with ease and grace. Just remember this: you don’t have to do it alone. It is ok to ask for and receive help.

The unpacking usually will bring up stuff. Stuff you need to look at, see, feel, hear and understand, so that it can begin to transform into an ally rather than something that bugs you or makes you feel uncomfortable or keeps you stuck.

All that is rising up to the surface is an opportunity to feel wholeness, beauty and love. The question is what will you do with it? Will you fight it, feed it, ignore it or will you make an effort to understand it, see it, feel it, and offer it love and compassion? That’s what’s between you and the transformation of rising above your conditions, conditionings and circumstances.

With love and light,

Damla

What if there is no wrong? This week I am remembering that all you can do is your best and then you learn and adjust. This way everything becomes an imperfect masterpiece.

The search for perfection gives way to the beauty of this moment, this version, this already shifting reality. By releasing the idea of arriving to an imagined destination, it is easier to arrive to the ‘right here and right now’. Right here and right now may not look like what you imagined, hoped or dreamed of but it is in its own way beautiful.

Within that beauty, it is possible to appreciate what is, without the pressure of what should be or the worry of what may be. There is no ‘what should be’ only ‘what is’. ‘What may be’ is another opportunity to release ‘what should be’ and appreciate ‘what is’ present in and around you.

What would it be like to release your judgement of this moment and appreciate all that you are and all that your life is? Start with something that is troubling you lately. What would this situation, feeling, circumstance feel like if you knew you have done no wrong or could do no wrong no matter what you do (without hurting yourself or others)? What if you could ease the burden of ‘should’s and ‘could’s and replace them with the ease of accepting all the lessons and gifts your life presents you at every moment? What if this becomes a way of life for you to stay light-hearted in everything you do and to accept and make peace with everything you are?

With love and light,

Damla

The main premise of my work as a Healer is to be ok with what is and help other people do the same. Yet I can easily tell you that it is close to impossible to be ok with what was, is and may be, all the time.

What then are we supposed to do when we are not ok with what is? When the pain, the struggle, the overwhelm is weighing us down. When to do’s, worries, uncertainties keep piling up on our shoulders and hearts. When it feels impossible to not replay the hurts and bruises we got in life over and over in our heads.

First, pause and remember that you are breathing. Your breath means that there’s hope for reclaiming your OK’ness.

Second, do what you can. Focus on the simple task of nourishing yourself that day, with an appreciated cup of tea, finding inspiration in art or writing, or perhaps a walk outdoors. Take action on what you can, in whatever way that you can.

Third, begin a dialog with your discomfort. Being OK with what is, was and what may be, begins with the simple step of asking your discomfort why it is here and what it needs you to let go, be, shift or become. You may get an answer or not. But the huge opportunity is for you to start a dialog with whatever is not working or not settling in your life.

Chances are it may not ever settle or go away. That would mean you’ll be with each other for a long time. While still striving to move towards balance and ease, you might as well get to know the not-OK-ness and make friends with it. Perhaps all that huge discomfort and uneasy feelings need are being heard and seen. Perhaps the dialog itself opens doors for you to discover hidden parts of yourself. Perhaps it lets you get in touch with the compassion you carry in your heart. Perhaps, this listening in and talking to all aspects of yourself and your life becomes one of the greatest joys of your life. In any case, I can tell you from experience, it is totally worth it.

With love and light,

Damla

The same way you clean your home, desk, your body, you need to clean your mind, thoughts and inner space regularly. You may not often realize how much of others’ thoughts and vibrations you pick up and live with. Similarly, there are thoughts and stories that you create and marinate yourself in, day in and day out.

The problem is when you begin to assume that these are true to you and take them on as yours even though they are not. They limit the positive, genuine, spacious vibrations you are meant to hold, and your body and mind are stuck in a constant loop of thinking and rethinking the same limiting beliefs and stories over and over.

In order to clear your inner space, you first need to get silent and listen in. Listen in to what comes up and what doesn’t feel good, easy, loving and life-affirming. Especially pay attention to the repetitive thoughts and stories. Ask all the rest to leave you and your mind. And do this as often as you can, preferably daily.

If the stories you tell yourself and the vibrations you picked up from others have been with you for a long time and it feels like they are resistant, book a 30 Minute Chakra Consult with me and let’s see what may be in the way of releasing them and begin to explore ways to let them go.

With love and light,
Damla

How often do you completely relax and enjoy yourself, and let yourself be guided by ease and love? More often than not we are in a holding pattern, even when we are doing enjoyable things. Instead of relaxing into the moment, we are holding, restricting, trying to control our experience.

What would it feel like for you to lean into softness instead? I invite you today to let your belly muscles soften, let your gaze relax, just be here with a complete surrender to whatever is here with you, for you, in and around you today. In that surrender, take deep breaths and follow your love, joy, bliss to lead you to what to do and how to go about your day.

Softness becomes an intention to come back to over and over. When you get lost, remind your body, gaze, voice to soften. Let your mind and your emotions follow along.

Wishing you wonderful holidays.

With love and light.
Damla

As you go through your healing journey, often there is an expectation of arriving to a place of completion, one where there will be no need for healing or retrieving parts of yourself. You will magically come to a place of no pain, no burst of emotion, but an ever-cheerful state of feeling energized and whole. I can tell you as a Healer that that place doesn’t exist in the way you imagine.

Healing happens in layers. You begin by identifying the need to heal. Something doesn’t feel quite right. You don’t feel like life is flowing as it should. You also feel like you lost your sense of joy somewhere. Sometimes this comes up as a physical discomfort. Other times it is your relationships, your job or your hard-to-control emotions that bring things up to the surface. So you begin the journey of uncovering what’s underneath. What’s underneath this burst of anger? What’s underneath these migraines? What choices have led me to this point? How can I make myself and my life whole again?

You then figure out a way to be with what comes up to the surface. Sometimes this is learning to be with an emotion by caring for your body first. Sometimes it is changing your life style to accommodate a food sensitivity. Then things change and shift and you feel ok for a while. Until the stuff hits the fan again. Then you begin to wonder where all those hours of yoga, meditation, breathing, self-study, energy healing, and reflection went to in the first place.

I can tell you exactly where they went to: they were preparing you for your next phase of healing. The fact that you start your healing work doesn’t mean that you are done after a single phase of relief. Every step helps you uncover a new dimension, pattern, perspective or conditioning that needs to come out to the light to be healed.

You are a multi-dimensional light being who encompasses vibrating strings of probabilities in the quantum fibers of your being. This means that at any given moment, you are creating and re-creating your physical, emotional and multi-dimensional reality. It also means that healing, as it is with everything in your life, is not a linear process. It has ups, downs, twists, turns, jumps, leaps and falls. All for the main purpose of giving you a chance to experience life to the fullest, with everything in it.

When you come to me for a healing, we will clear, expand, install new energies, and uncover what needs to be uncovered at that particular moment in time in your energy field. This doesn’t mean that you are done with all that needs to be done with your healing work. It simply means that you are giving your energetic system a boost, a hand if you will, in the never-ending work of becoming whole. Sometimes this is all it takes to take you from that fall to rising up and feeling in tune with life. That said, there is no guarantee that you will never need a tune-up again. You most likely will need to work on becoming whole until the end of your lifetime. But what I can do is give you my support to shift your energy when you need it the most.

With love and light,

Damla

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