When You Run Out Of Water…

It is 10:30pm. On a country road on the West Coast of Turkey we stop on the side of the road and rush out of the car. There is a thick smoke and a burnt plastic scent coming out of the front of the car. I carry my five year old daughter quickly a few yards away. Luckily she is blissfully sleepy with her headphones on, listening to her music. As my husband and in-laws try to find a flashlight, a car stops and two women and a guy come out asking us what we need. They then quickly produce a flashlight. We figure out that the engine ran out of water and overheated. The guy runs to the back of his car and brings out a 30 gallon water container. It turns out that they don’t normally carry water with them. But earlier that day they stopped by a friend’s house and their friend insisted that they take the water with them. We fill the water tank and in less than 15 minutes we are on our way safe and sound.

So next time you run out of water, gas, life energy, money, creative solutions or hope, remember that help is on its way to you in vehicles and ways you cannot begin to imagine. This happened three weeks ago while we were on our way to my in-laws’ summer house in the little village of Sogut in Marmaris Turkey. The picture gives a view of this beautiful Aegean seaside haven.

I am now back in Durham, New Hampshire filled with soulful insights and light. So happy to be back home, and our home feels spacious, light, and airy because I feel that I am bringing back that energy. I look forward to connecting with you and sharing the light. Here are a few ways to work with me and engage in a conversation with your soul to figure out what she/he needs:

  • Experience Sound Balancing. This is a method that is more than skin deep. It cuts right into your energetic wounds. As I am working on your field, I hear, feel and sense what your wounds have to say. Everything wishes to be seen, heard and understood. In my experience, when you give a wound a voice and a space to exist peacefully, it relaxes into your being and becomes a connection to your soul. Distance sessions available. $60 per single session, $150 for three sessions until September 30th. The price will rise to $85 for a single session and $225 for three sessions after that. Book your session here.
  • Enhance and clear your chakras with Chakra Bliss Healing. Crystals have the magical ability to expand your field and catalyze your intentions. When your field is expanded, you are able to withstand whatever life throws at you. Because you can act (not react) from a place of grounded spaciousness, instead of constricted tightness. You can experience a group session or book an in-person or Skype private. The next Chakra Bliss Group Healing is at Bending Bodhi Yoga in Dover on September 10, 2-3pm, $25 and $20 for studio members. More information on private single or group sessions is here.
  • Get grounded, release what you no longer need and get inspired with Replenish Your Well – A Sacred Site Ritual and Meditation. I am taking up to 15 light-makers to one of the least known electromagnetic healing areas of America, America’s Stonehenge in Salem, NH. Most of the stones are dated more than 4000 years old. This site has been known to be used as a ritual site for many cultures and tribes over the years. It is one of those places where you distinctly feel the Earth’s healing energy. Together we will set an intention to release what we don’t need and replenish ourselves with what need. $25 per person which includes the $12 entry fee. You can pre-register until August 20th. Minimum 5 registrants. Register here.

As always, please feel free to reach out to me with anything you would like to share. There’s a daily conversation going on about how to bring bliss into our lives and chakras, at our private Chakra Bliss Party Facebook Group. You can join in the conversation or listen quietly to the wisdom of the beautiful and amazing souls who hold this virtual space for each other.

With love and light,

Damla

Where The Wound Lives

Our energetic wounds live in our bodies, minds and our electromagnetic field (about 6 feet out all around our body). Anything that is not loving is recorded in our fields, minds, and bodies. We often associate deep wounds and trauma with physical or emotional abuse. What we don’t understand is for something to be a wound, it only needs to ‘feel like’ and be perceived as trauma or stress by our system. In the mind of a child, the uncontrolled anger of a parent is trauma, because they are never sure when it is going to hit even if it doesn’t immediately hurt them or it isn’t about them, which creates a constant state of heightened alert and stress in them. Being exposed to your parents arguing is trauma. And I am finding more and more, ignoring any need of a child or adolescent is traumatic.

Here are a few ways we get energetic wounds in our system:

  • Physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse
  • Birth, the way it happened, our parents’ financial, emotional, and physical state when it happened and up to 6 years of age.
  • How we were nourished as a baby (nursed or not, left to cry or not)
  • How we were nourished as a child and adolescent (listened, heard, supported or not)
  • Dysfunctional family dynamics and lack of communication
  • Family members with emotional disorders (depression, rage, mental health issues, etc.)
  • Moving to a different house or city
  • Divorce (you or your parents)
  • Loss of family members
  • Accidents, violent events and surgeries
  • Substance use and addiction
  • The political and the socio-economic structure of our environment (big events like 9/11, terrorist attacks, wars, coups, etc.)

The wounds take a toll on our life. They show up in our bodies as pain, tightness, dryness, numbness, loss of feeling and sensation. They also show up as repetitive thoughts, emotions, patterns, or situations you find yourself in over and over. Over time, your energetic wounds that you don’t tend to turn into physical ailments and chronic diseases and pain.

Essentially, here’s how the wound appears in our system:

  • In the body, the wound is where the energy doesn’t flow as it could.
  • In the mind, the wound is where the energy doesn’t flow as it could.
  • In the energy field, the wound is where the energy doesn’t flow as it could.

The wound lives and breathes with us unless we tend to it. Here’s what I know about how to release the very real electromagnetic charge of a wound:

  • Your energy field holds the records of the time. Anything that is not love, joy, or peace is recorded in your field as an energy disturbance. Sound Balancing with tuning forks locates these wound charges in your field, neutralizes them and adds the missing charge back into your chakras and body to be added to your life force. Chakra Bliss Healing with crystals restores the missing vortex speed and function of a chakra so that you can then utilize this added life force in the best potentially possible way.
  • Your body is an alert system for the present moment. All of your life’s electromagnetic information is stored in your fascia, in your bones, in your organs and cells. At any given moment, your body creates an experience based on your past programming in the present time. Sometimes these experiences are not pleasant, which is precisely when your body is alerting you of the presence of an energetic wound. It is also capable of releasing the memory of an experience through fascia-work (massage, fascia lubrication), somatic intelligence (deeply feeling and sensing into the body), tuning the frequency of the organs (with tuning forks and crystals, and visiting sacred sites), and rhythmic movement, voice toning and mantras (Mantra Dance).
  • Your mind carries your stories. It is your guiding mechanism for how you relate to a life experience. How you relate to a life experience changes how you perceive and react to current, past and future events. Changing your perception of a seemingly negative life event or circumstance has the potential to change your life. I am currently working on an 8-week online course to teach everything I know about changing and updating how you see your reality.

What I am finding more and more with myself and my clients is tending to only one side of a wound is not enough, you need to work with and on all three aspects of how it shows up: the body, the mind, and the field. We often think that when we change our mindsets and for instance forgive a past offender, all will be well. The electromagnetic charge of any life event still lives in the body and the field even when you update your story. Same is true for tending to the body or the field only. All three aspects of healing need to happen in harmony.

Here’s what you can do about your wounds:

  • Take some time right now to feel into your body and mind, what comes up in your system that feels like a disturbance, numbness, pain or dis-ease? What is repeating itself as thoughts, emotions, or life experiences? What is the wall that you keep hitting? All of these are clues about where the wound lives and how to release its charge. Listen in and take action, anything big or small you can do right now, to be with what is and to tend to your wound.
  • We have been working with daily mantras on how to change our stories and mindset at the Chakra Bliss Party Facebook Group. You can join the soulful group of women of this group for daily inquiries.
  • To work with me privately on your wounds, or to attend one of my workshops, please go to this link. All of my private offerings are available through Skype or phone.
With love and light,
Damla

From Reaction to Inspired Action

The purpose of spiritual development and inquiry is only one thing: inspired action. Inspired action happens when you are aligned with your soul in your body and mind. The opposite is simply reaction where we follow the trail of our wounds and reenact them over and over again.

The reaction is the place of suffering and pain. It is where you hurt and you are most likely to hurt others. During a reaction, the emotions run high and there is a sense of things not being right. This is the place where your needs are desperately screaming to be met.

The inspired action is when you are acting from an impetus that feels authentic, unique and truthful. You are not acting out of a desperation, retaliation or righteousness. You are acting from a place of calm knowing that your needs are already met.

Going from reaction to an inspired action is a lifetime journey that starts with accepting that you are responsible for taking care of yourself. This life, this heart that beats inside of you really needs you to be present. Can you give yourself the time, attention and the care that you deserve? Can you be with yourself with an immeasurable compassion to identify what your needs are during a reactive state? Can you then be responsible for taking action to take care of those needs?

Over time, your care helps you develop a sense of presence and the space to take more and more inspired actions. When your needs are met, it becomes easier to listen to your partner, your child, your own body. It becomes easier to say the right words, do the right things or sometimes not say anything or do anything at all. When your sea is calm you can bear witness to the storm around you with the awe of a Goddess. Every raindrop becomes something amazing to watch and be with because you have cleared the lens of your camera.

During reactive times when your emotions are running high, just take note of this: you have a need that is asking you to be heard and it is just the right time for you to stop and listen to it.

Here are a few ways for you to work with what you need and awaken inspired action in your life. To work deeply on your energetic wounds that are keeping you in a reactive state, consider working with me privately. All of my offerings are available as in-person sessions in my home studio in Durham, NH or over Skype or phone.

  • Sound Balancing: A revolutionary method that detects the disturbances in your energy field and corrects them with the help of the purifying tones of the tuning forks. Through sound balancing, it is possible to detect and re-balance energetic wounds in your field that result in changes and release in your physical system. (Appointments begin after May 19th)
  • Chakra Bliss Healing: A blissful crystal chakra energy healing with your chakra measurement, assessment, chakra balance recommendations and personal intuitive messages for each chakra.
  • Consult: One on one meetings for bliss and transformation. We focus on one area and create a plan to change your relationship with anything that is between you and a blissful life. With personalized chakra, crystal and mantra guidance, intuitively channeled messages, distance healing, and practices you can add to your life right away, you can embark on a journey of bliss.

Please contact me to book your session or if you have any questions.

With love and light,

Damla

Factory Settings

When stress hits us we usually revert back to what I call our ‘factory settings’, meaning we handle the stress the same way we handled it when we were little, which usually is the way our parents handled it. There is usually an age we go back to as well. Depending on the situation, you may find yourself as a hungry/angry five year old, grumpy 13 year old or a sad two year old.

No matter how much self-improvement you do or how many times a day you meditate, going back to the factory settings is inevitable. It is a part of our wiring to seek what we need in a way that is wired in us at an early age.

The trick is then realizing when you are in a five year old state of mind, pausing to notice what you really need, and choosing to behave with the wisdom and the experience of your current year old self.

There is a better way to satisfy your needs, I call this ‘returning to the source code’. The source code is your life energy, connected to all the life energy around you. Some people call it electromagnetism, some call it the soul and the unified field, and some call it love. This is the place where you get your fuel, your inner resourcefulness, your ideas and creativity. This is the place that can help you rewrite a new behavioral pattern instead of the one you played out a million times before.

What you need to connect with your source code are only two things: making time for a sacred pause and your intention. I am hosting a Chakra Bliss Group Healing this Sunday to give you the time and space for a sacred pause to connect you with your source code. Hope to see you there.

With love and light,

Damla Aktekin

The Sacred Pause

I’ve been thinking a lot about the power of a sacred pause. It can be as short as a breath, as long as a one-hour meditation or a week-long retreat. What makes it sacred is the intention to bathe yourself in enoughness.

For the duration of the pause, you stop trying to change or fix anything, make yourself or things better. What brings you to the pause is that you have already tried that and it didn’t work. In this moment of complete exhaustion, you have nothing else left to do but pause your thinking mind and leave yourself in a sea of beingness.

Being as it turns out is completely enough. You are enough when you exist without your preconceptions, assumptions, conditions and conditionings. You are enough when you let go of the place you’d like to reach or the person you strive to become.

In the lack of striving lies the fertile ground of creative connection to the life in and around you. You become a sacred container that can hold life and transform it into joyfulness, resourcefulness, renewed energy, and beauty. You can dive into the realm of possibilities instead of holding on to what you think should have been.

The sacred pause holds the key to be with what is. In being, we become.

I am hosting a monthly sacred pause, a Chakra Bliss Group Healing, in the Seacoast New England area. Hope to meet you there soon.

With love and light,

Damla Aktekin

Cold and Consciousness

I’ve been nursing a cold all week. Feeling foggy and tired with a low-grade fever and waiting for it to run its course. I woke up tonight in the middle of the night with a ‘my sinuses are too full’ feeling. Unable to go to sleep, I got up and took care of a few things including drinking some water with lemon (always helps with anything). Then it occurred to me.

Consciousness is a sum of all our aware moments. The more aware you are the more conscious (aka awake) you are. And you can’t be fully conscious just by being aware of all the good-labeled moments, feelings and emotions. You need to expand your consciousness to include the totality of your life experience. This takes work, effort and brutal honesty.

So for me this means tending to everything that my body is feeling right now without judging or labeling. And drinking lots and lots of water with lemon juice 🙂

What are you aware of right now? What can you include in your field of awareness that you normally push or wish away?

Here are a few ways to work with me to bring your conscious awareness to what needs light and to transform your outlook so that you can begin to hold more and more in your loving gaze.

Have a blissful week.

With love and light,

Damla

Photograph by NASA

Bringing Your Truth

There is a truth beyond the duality of our lives. Beyond right and wrong, true and false, good and bad is the truth: the wisdom and the infinite divinity of our souls.

Although at times it is hard to access it, this wisdom lives within you in your field of existence. You need to tap into this essence during:

  • Moments of feeling lost, by remembering your true essence is that of wisdom and love
  • Life’s tough decisions, by knowing you already have the highest vibrational answers that rest in your heart
  • Health, money, relationship issues, by reconnecting again and again with your knowing soul and remembering it is all a mirror to get to know the many aspects of yourself

Your truth (your soul) doesn’t always arrive where you are unless you consciously take the time to connect with it. Reminding yourself to bring it with you to wherever you are and wherever you go becomes an exercise in connecting with your soul’s wisdom and embodying your truth.

Just take a moment and close your eyes. Bring to mind whatever challenge you are facing right now. Can you sense how this challenge shows up in your body? Go ahead and call your soul’s wisdom in. Let it permeate your body until you feel completely embodied with your soul. And whenever you get lost, close your eyes and bring your soul back into your body until you are one with your truth.

With love and light,

Damla

Making Peace With It

Healing does not mean getting rid of all your issues. It does mean however making peace with them.

When you make peace with what is, you are no longer fighting it. You can come to a deeper understanding of your struggles with an impartial look. You can then, in time, observe what it is that it is trying to teach you.

There are tools and methods that can show you how to do this. Crystals are a huge help because they bring you to a consciousness that can hold space for what is. Mantra does it too. Mantra Dance adds another layer where you can be the issue, you can give it a body to dance and express itself. The issue then feels seen and heard and understood. And often something magical happens: it releases its tight grip on you.

My life had been a constant struggle until I finally figured out how to use these tools. I know what it means to struggle. And I now know how to rise above it and see everything  as my dear teacher who is helping me become whole. I am here to teach you to do the same.

I hope to see you soon at my next Chakra Bliss Group Healing or Mantra Dance.

With love and light,

Damla Aktekin

Dancing with My Sadness

One of those mornings. I wake up several times at night. A web of dreams. Woke up with my left side, from my neck to the inner left shoulder blade, tight and stuck with a searing pain. As I move, tears follow. This is different, this isn’t just a ‘I slept on a wrong angle’ kind of pain, this is ‘listen to me I’m trying to tell you something’ kind of pain.

So I listen. I lie down with my crystals on my chakras. I invite light to shine into my energy vortices one by one. The sadness shape-shifts, this isn’t something new, this is my old friend of feeling helpless and trapped. I see myself as a teenager, so full of passion, and so angry at being said no to and not having any control over my time and choices. The good thing is I am not a teenager any more, the challenging thing is this feeling is between me and my arriving to this moment fully. So the inquiry continues, right in my belly I see my cells desperately wanting to control everything. So exhausting. What if they can let all that go. So I ask, and they let the light in. A sigh of relief, my body melts. I continue to scan my body chakra by chakra, letting the energy of the crystals in, and believing that I can let go of this illusion of control, and so it is. My eased body joins my family to have some breakfast.

As I go about having breakfast, making tea and chatting with my daughter and husband, the sadness returns. Like a lost puppy, it is still trying to teach me something. The real work is right here, right at my breakfast table. It is knowing that no one did this to me, no one is to blame, it is a pattern, a condition, a conditioning, coming by to say hi. And I have no right to lash out to my child or husband or myself or anyone in my life. But I do have a responsibility to tend to this searing pain, this aching sadness.

I go back to solitude to be with it, and this time to dance with it. I choose a soothing rhythmic song. I start to move slowly, with no words, with a lot of tenderness and gentleness. I can clearly feel the start and the end of my pain, all the tightness, and with my inquiry I know that some of my deepest fears are behind it: feeling helpless, not being able to do anything I want and need to do, and losing my connection to the flow of life. My movements progress. I am not trying to understand anything. I am simply being there for this expression of life. I move, my pain moves, sometimes expanding, sometimes softening. Soon, my inner voice adds a mantra to my dance ‘Om Shanti Om’. My movements get bigger and stronger.

Suddenly I am reminded that I don’t have to carry it all by myself. I can rely on the vibration of ‘Om Shanti Om’ chanted by millions of others through millenia, I can rely on my ancestors, the invisible helpers in my DNA, and ask them to carry this fear with me, I can ask the light in the universe to give me a helping hand. My movements are not mine any more, the life and light are dancing me. I move and I am lifted at the same time.

And something magical happens: no more pain. My neck is free, my muscles no longer aching. I dance with a newly found connection to life and joy. Still chanting, releasing and allowing life to move in me, through me, with me. I hold my heart, my movements slow down, I truly feel the vibration that is carrying me through it: ‘Om Shanti Om’. I offer it all to the light, vibration, and the unique expression of life that we all are.

The strong neck and shoulder pain I woke up with disappears in the face of an honest inquiry with the help of crystals, mantra and dance. When you show up with the intention of a fully engaged presence, and a loving willingness to be with what is, and use the tools available to you, your feelings, sensations and pain open up to you and share their secrets with you. You open up to the possibility of ease, joy, freedom and lightness.

Sign up for Chakra Bliss Group Healing to show up for what needs to be listened to.
Sign up for Mantra Dance to show up for what needs to be danced with.
All dates and sign up info are here. 

With love and light,

Damla