Inspiration

Sweet Comfort

Some days are not for big questions of life, some days are reserved for sweet comfort. Drinking your tea with all its flavors, smelling the aroma of a home cooked meal, sitting under a warm blanket, letting your cat lick your hand and inhaling the life that is all here for you. Getting lost in the seeming ordinariness of our lives, with all its deliciousness, just for the sake of it.

What makes you feel cozy, warm, content, loving inside and outside? What are your favorite routines for sweet comfort? The Danish people call it Hygge, a feeling of warm, cozy, delightful fluffiness that comes from enjoying all the things that make you feel at home. I would love to know what sweet comfort means for you. Feel free to share with me by commenting below.

If you feel like you need a moment to check-in with your body and feel into what you need most, feel free to download this meditation.

With love and light,

Damla

You Are Not Responsible

I worked on two friends this morning who woke up not feeling physically well. I am in the same bandwagon, woke up with a migraine and threw up (feeling better now). As I tuned their Biofield over a distance with my tuning forks, I was surprised to hear they both had the exact same message about taking on self-imposed responsibilities. When this kind of repeated message via synchronicity happens it usually tells me that this is something I need to listen up too. I am guessing you do too so here it goes:

You are not responsible for other people’s happiness. This goes for your kids, pets, partners, family, friends and anybody else in your life. Their challenges might be their gifts in disguise. You can be there for them, you can connect and listen but it is not your responsibility to make them feel a certain way ALL the time.

You are not responsible to make every single piece of your business and your office run perfectly. You are not responsible to take on every single unpleasantness, inefficiency, awkwardness or discomfort as your job to tackle, alleviate and solve. You can still do your piece but watch out for self-imposed (especially impossible) responsibilities you take on.

You are not responsible to have a perfect household. The kitchen may be reeking. The wastebasket of your toilet may be overflowing. Your shelves, drawers, cupboards may not have Konmari perfection. I am here to tell you that IT IS OK. Life will go on without you achieving a spotless picture-perfect environment.

You are not responsible to be healed 100%, with a perfect keto, vegan, paleo or other diet, with the perfect supplements each and every day, the perfect amount of exercise, yoga and meditation, and spending time in nature and whatnot. Give yourself a break and enjoy what you are able to do without shame or guilt.

You are not responsible to have a perfect body. Your body is perfect as it is. Now go love it.

You are not responsible to read each and every Facebook comment, see every Instagram story, read and respond to every email or text message or twitter post. Life does go on without social media overload.

Here’s what you are responsible for:

Meeting your own needs with or without help.

Meeting the needs of the minors and pets you live with and choosing to connect with and be present for your loved ones.

Sharing this in case you needed to hear it too.

Here’s a brief meditation to help you get started with tuning in to what you really need and tending to your needs. Please share it with anyone in your life who needs this. I really feel like we all need to get better about identifying what we need and taking action on it.

With love,

Damla

 

Enjoying Your Food

Have you enjoyed your food today? Have you taken the time to connect with your body and the nourishment that is in front of you? In this video, I am explaining why that is so important and how our early experiences with food (such as breastfeeding) play such a big role in how we relate to food.

I am offering the perspective that food isn’t just for physical nourishment, some of its main life-giving purposes are enjoyment and feeling supported. We have so many opportunities to connect with the life that is in our bodies and connect with the food that is in front of us and supports us each and every day.

If you would like to find out more about what may be between you and enjoying your food, please click on this link and download 12 Questions to Determine Your Energetic Wounds. It will give you an idea of what vibrational patterns may be present in your life that you aren’t aware of.

If you’ve watched this and found this useful and inspiring, please share this video, and comment below to let me know how you plan to enjoy your food today!

With love and gratitude,

Damla

The Song That You Are

As I was driving back from a three-day Kirtan (mantra music) festival where I sang and chanted together with a group of 150+ people day and night, it fell into my heart that how much mantra chanting has parallels with the cyclical nature of our lives. This felt like something I needed to share with you as we are all living this one way or another, so here it goes.

Most Kirtan music starts with a slow introduction, almost like whispering, it plants the seeds of the melodies that are about to come (like Spring). The hushed tones begin to warm up the vibrational pathways of our bodies. Then comes the upbeat call and response, where the music gets louder and louder, and faster and faster. This is the time to put it all on the table, sing full force, using all your oxygen reserves and lighting the fire in your heart. This is when the vibration you are creating is felt the most by you and everybody else (like Summer). Then comes another round of slower chanting, almost like savoring what the fire of the previous part created, you slow down, you let your body and voice get calmer, you know the song is ending, this is your chance to still be in it (like Fall). The last part is simply staying silent and breathing in the vibrational essence that is still hanging in the air as nectar, as medicine. You stay still, you rest in the beauty that you have just created in partnership with everyone else. You let your body transform and integrate everything it needs to transform and integrate (like Winter).

I feel like all we are and all we do are songs. Some meant to be sung in hushed tones, some melodies overlapping each other (work, life, family), some are meant to be sung full force with all our fire and life energy. And then there is the breathing, the pauses, the highs and lows, the overlapping parts, the learning from each other, the contributing to and enhancing each other’s melodies and creating something we couldn’t have imagined creating just by singing what’s in our hearts, and the fact that it doesn’t even have to be on key all the time, it doesn’t need to be perfectly harmonized, the song that we are, the song that is in our hearts just needs to be sung, shared, and put out into the world. This, all of this, is our music that we are creating every moment, together, and it is so fricking beautiful.

I am back from my Turkey trip and ready to see one on one clients. Every time I take a long leave, I find that I come back with new juju and the first wave of sessions are always magical. You can find more about my private sessions and schedule yours here (don’t wait too long so you can catch the juju!).

With love and gratitude to all of you ?

Damla

Photo Credit: A collaborative nature mandala from the BlessFest.

Allowing Life To Be

Allowing life to be as it is.

Making space for a sincere allowing, without conditions and prerequisites.

Allowing your life, your healing, your relationships, your work to unfold as they need to.

Letting go of the illusion of control.

Letting go of the pattern of ‘If I worry or get angry, it means I am doing something.’

Letting go of the pattern of powerlessness, heaviness, and stuckness.

Letting go of what you think you know.

Opening up to the mystery, the beauty, and the song of life.

Allowing life to sing to you, in you, for you, with you.

Allowing the mystery to become you.

Allowing trust to be your ally, your presence to be your comfort, your joy to be your carriage, your love to be your everything.

Allowing the truth of who you are to shine brilliantly.

Allowing things to unfold with patience, with care, with a lot of love. If you have trouble allowing, contact me and let’s unfold your energetic wounds together for an allowing existence.

With love and light,

Damla

Being In Love

Here’s the purpose of our lives: being in love with life. Wherever you are, can you be in love? Whatever you are doing, can you do it with love? Whatever your body, mind, soul, relationships present to you, can you see it with love? When you get lost, can you come back to love, again and again, and again?

Love is the purpose of your existence. Love is what connects us all, what heals us, what gives us the energy to keep going, and keep lifting ourselves up.

Love is what makes it all worthwhile. Adding love to where you are, what you do, how you do it, how you connect, how you remember, how you honor, how you realize what really is happening within you and around you, changes everything.

Alchemize your life with love. Just keep adding it in by holding the intention of being, doing and becoming love.

If you need help with healing your energetic wounds and falling deeper in love with yourself and with life, I am here to help.

With love and light,

Damla

Healing Is…

Healing is learning to love yourself bit by bit.

Healing is not knowing when you will feel better but learning to trust the journey and know that life is happening for you, not to you.

Healing is learning that blaming and complaining about others, the situation, the place, the obstacles, life in general, is all a distraction.

Healing is not getting triggered by the same things that used to drive you crazy.

Healing is learning to pause when life feels too much, too busy or too overwhelming.

Healing is knowing what heals you, what is your medicine and coming back to it again and again.

Healing is learning that what heals you changes moment to moment.

Healing is realizing that it is your responsibility to pause, check-in, name and reach for what you need with or without help.

Healing is knowing that your core wounds determine your core needs.

Healing is learning to understand life in an entirely new, paradoxical, symbolic, chaotic, probabilistic and exciting way.

Healing is learning, growing and then learning some more.

Healing is letting go of control.

Healing is establishing healthy boundaries when you need them.

Healing is being OK with what was, what is and what might be.

Healing is releasing the fear, the stuckness, the anxiety, the constriction, the avoidance and letting love flow through you.

Healing is always available to you no matter who or where you are. ​If you need help starting or continuing on your healing journey, contact me.

With love and light,

Damla

Encourageable

This morning my 6-year-old daughter wrote an encourageable book for me. It was exactly what I needed to hear. I am sharing her words of wisdom in this brief video in case you need to hear it too. Her first-grade teacher has a box of little cards with inspirational words and sentences in them that they call ‘encourageable’. I love the word since it summarizes how some words can lift you up and speak to your heart.

If this speaks to you, please feel free to share.

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With love and light,

Damla

Forgive And Let Go

Let’s talk about seeming mistakes and regrets. In retrospect, all that you ever regret couldn’t have been any different because you were at a certain vibration at that time, which led to what happened.

All we can ever do is realize that it doesn’t help to wish that things were different (easier, smoother, luckier, etc.) or that people were different (more supportive, loving, caring, etc) or that you were different (smarter, more intuitive, with better boundaries, etc). You were who you were and whatever happened, happened for reasons that are most of the time beyond our understanding.

How do you move on from a seeming mistake? You forgive, you forgive, you forgive. You forgive the ‘you’ who didn’t know any better. You forgive the circumstances that led up to that moment that you wish didn’t happen. You forgive other people for not being what you expected them to be. You forgive them for expecting you to be different.

Forgiving doesn’t mean you don’t protect yourself with better boundaries, better preparation and better self-care for the next rodeo. Forgiving means you keep your inner landscape clear of the yuckiness of guilt, shame or regret. Not forgiving yourself means you’ll swim in muddy waters hoping things will get better somehow, they won’t. It is your greatest power and responsibility to forgive, let go, and then forgive and let go some more.

If you need help forgiving and letting go, take action and get help. I am here for you to help you shift your vibration and connect with the place within you that has already forgiven whatever or whoever has been bothering you.

With love and light,

Damla

It’s OK To Not Know

It’s OK to not know what’s next for you.

It’s OK to not know when you’ll feel better.

It’s OK to not know how things will unfold.

It’s OK to not know if you’ll be OK.

It’s OK to not know what lies ahead.

It’s OK to not know when things will begin and end.

It’s OK to not know how you got here in the first place.

It’s OK to not know how to make sense of it all.

It’s OK to not know what the best path is.

It’s OK to not know how to get yourself out of here.

It’s OK to not know where help may come from.

It’s OK to not know what beauty, wisdom, love awaits you.

It’s OK to not know what it all means.

It’s OK because knowing isn’t a prerequisite for being in the now and with all your heart trusting just this moment.

With love and light,

Damla