Month: August 2020

Why I charge money as a healer

This is a question that has come up lately and it is an important one. Here’s why I choose to charge money in exchange for my healing services.

I am not an endless resource. I am a renewable one but holding healing space takes time, an incredible amount of energy, and resources from my own being. Anytime I make contact with an individual or a group for a healing or coaching session, I need to get ready in advance and take some time to tend to my needs afterward.

There is a tremendous amount of soul work, practice, and experience behind what I do. Countless hours of self-practice as well as working with individuals and groups. Countless hours of dedicated study on doing what I do including reading, training, attending workshops, contemplating, etc. You are not just paying for an hour with me, you are paying for what I bring to the table as an experienced intuitive soul coach and healer.

My time is valuable, so is yours. Your monetary investment shows me that you are dedicated to your healing as I am dedicated to holding space for you. It means you’ll show up when you make an appointment (and you’ll expect the same from me). It means that when we get together for a session we are both present and willing to do our best. I used to offer my 30 Minute Chakra Consult for free. It was incredibly frustrating for me in the times that I would show up fully ready with an initial chakra reading done for someone, and they wouldn’t even show up! I strongly feel that a monetary investment is a way to honor each other’s time and help people prioritize my time and theirs.

I don’t need or want your karmic debt. There needs to be an energetic exchange where each party is giving and each party is receiving in a way that feels fair and just to both. Period. I have had transitions in the past that didn’t involve money. I had a client who used to pay me with the free-range eggs from her chickens, which I loved since I knew how much effort she spent loving and caring for those chickens. I have had people distribute my marketing materials in exchange for healing sessions. That said, I find that a monetary transaction is much easier to handle and keep track of for both parties.

It is not sustainable for my small business to not charge. I do love offering free resources and often (find them here) but I can’t keep my business running or thriving, or tend to my and my family’s needs without charging the worth of what I do.

You are paying for the transformation you are intending to go through. My job is to be the embodiment and mirror of your inner healer. When you invest in a bigger transformation (like getting a 5 or 10 session package), it means that you are dedicating more time, energy, and resources (which include money) into your healing. You will experience much bigger, long-lasting, and life-changing shifts and transformation. Often the shift begins to happen the moment you invest in a deeper and longer healing work because by doing that you show the universe that you are ready, willing, and able to go through this soul work and change your life. The universe knows how to listen to your actions. And yes that includes taking a leap of faith and investing in your healing in a bigger monetary way.

In the past, I have given free sessions when I felt that the person and the situation they were in granted it. I continue to offer free resources, discounts, and scholarships to my online courses and programs when I am guided to. (Hint: continue to follow my email newsletters to hear about my discounts and scholarship offers). When I do offer free resources, services, and discounts I fully trust the universe to compensate me in her own way. However, in the cases that I am guided to give freely of my time as a healer two things need to be present: I need to have an excess amount of time and energy handy to be able to honor the healing, AND I need to know in my gut that this person isn’t playing a victim and that they are really invested in their healing, they will show up and do the work and not expect me to be their savior. If these two conditions aren’t present it isn’t fair to me or to the other person to collaborate for their healing. I can tell you right now that my time and energy while going through a pandemic are extremely precious and limited, and I am not currently available to offer any free healing sessions.

You are not limited by what is in your bank account. Ask for resources, signs, signals, guidance to show up for you on helping you decide whether to invest in your healing. The caveat is when they do offer you guidance and direct you to resources you didn’t realize you had, you need to take action quickly. Like when you meet three people on the street who tell you about me or you are deeply touched by an email I wrote or you find my business card at the bottom of a drawer all of a sudden or you get a sum of money that came out of nowhere, it is a sign for you book your session with me already! I have also seen people get creative when they decided to commit to their healing, asking for loans from family and friends, reducing an expense to make space for healing, or taking on additional work to create the resources they need.

Lower prices don’t mean less of a transformation. It means you are getting less attention and time commitment from me. You can still get a huge healing benefit from my online courses and online group healing sessions. It simply means you need to be ready to commit and do the self-healing work by yourself. The group healings let you share my healing attention with others allowing a lower price point and can work wonders if you come in with an intention to put in your wholehearted presence and openness.

You also have access to a tremendous amount of free resources. Please don’t be fooled by the label “free”. Each of the freebies I share holds a key to your healing. I have had people achieve a tremendous amount of physical and emotional relief just by using the Allowing Life To Flow free tapping meditation daily. The internet is an amazing resource for you. You can start with the people I interview on Conversations With Healers Podcast and immerse yourself in their free resources.

My point is please start somewhere! Start where you can and don’t get hung up on the pricing or let it stop you from reaching for your healing. Let’s chat to figure out if I can help you start or deepen your healing.

With love, light, and gratitude,

Damla

What can Tetris teach you about healing?

What if you are a game of Tetris and all your wounding is the gaps and the chaos that builds up when you aren’t careful? Tetris is a wildly popular video game from the 80s. I used to love playing it. I remember getting so frustrated when something got messed up. The only way to make things flow again was to pay even more attention to what parts Tetris throws at you next and lay them down as best as you can.

We often think of our wounding as a giant box that can be opened up, then we take out what’s in it, dispose of it and everything will be OK. Unfortunately much like Tetris, ALL your wounding lives here in the now. There is no box to open. Your wounding is present in every moment of your life.

You can only tend to your wounds by finding presence and grace in the now. Much like a Tetris game, bringing awareness, attention, and a loving gaze to this moment will promptly melt away your past wounding and mishaps. Also much like a Tetris game, any time you lose your presence and caring awareness, all your wounds will build up on top of each other and life will be chaotic.

The more you realize that every moment is a chance to heal EVERYTHING, the more precious every moment becomes.

If you feel like you need help with your healing, let’s chat.

With love and light,

Damla

P. S. Here is an online version of Tetris you can play on your laptop or PC.

Solo Episode – Being and Becoming a Healer

In this Conversations With Healers’ solo episode, I am sharing my story of being and becoming a Healer. I recorded this video way before the quarantine started. I feel that the message is still valid and important to be shared. Here’s what I am covering in this solo episode:

  • How I define a self-healer and a healer,
  • Why I started this podcast,
  • What an incredible experience it has been to connect with you this way,
  • My own journey of healing (from living mind-based to body-based to energy-based) and becoming a healer.
  • How discovering vibrational healing tools of mantra chanting, crystal healing, EFT Tapping, and Biofield Tuning saved my life.

I would love to hear your feedback and suggestions for the podcast, including anybody you would like me to feature. Please feel free to contact me and share your thoughts.

My favorite healing nugget from this episode is “A Healer is someone who gathers a tool and then says I want to share this with the world. A Healer is also someone who, through their own healing journey, has begun to embody so much light, so much joy, so much life force that just their pure existence in the world is healing for the people around them.”

You can find out more about me and my healing work on my website. Take Your Energetic Wounds QUIZ to find out what your energetic wounds are and how they show up in your life. Follow me on Instagram for daily energetic wound healing inspiration, and join my Facebook group Chakra Bliss Party to be part of an intimate and light-filled group to support your healing journey.

If this conversation touched you in any way, inspired you or spoke to you, please share it. You can share it in a conversation, post about it on Facebook or Instagram, or email or text it to your friends and family. We truly appreciate your support in spreading the love and light that we hope to create with these conversations.

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With love and light,

Damla

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Why Filtering Blue Light Matters

In one of my parenting groups, someone asked the question of whether our children need to wear blue light filtering glasses while engaging with electronics. The answer is yes and we all need to be aware of the dangers of blue light and learn ways to filter it to preserve our health. Blue light from LED lights has a damaging effect on our retinas, hormonal cycles as well as our circadian rhythm.

Here’s the research on why filtering blue light matters:

Here’s what I have been doing the protect myself and my family‘s circadian rhythm, sleep health, and the health of our eyes:

  • We changed ALL our light bulbs from LED to incandescent about 3 years ago. The light feels much warmer and healthier.
  • I installed blue light filters to ALL our electronic devices including our desktop computer, laptops, iPad, phones, Kindles, and Nintendo Switch.
  • I downloaded F.lux free blue light filtering app to all our laptops.
  • The only device I couldn’t filter was our two large TVs. For them, I keep blue light filtering glasses around the house for everyone’s use. We also use these while traveling.

Here are some of my favorite tools for blue light protection. I have included all the device filters, light bulbs, blue light filtering glasses we use in our home: