A Drop of Om

No matter what I offer you as a Healer, ultimately healing has to be an inside job for you. As much as I’d love to be there for you every time you need healing, it isn’t possible or realistic. This is why the majority of my work is geared towards empowering you with self-healing tools and practices that you can access any time and anywhere. Here’s what I want you to remember about your healing process.

You need to become an expert on how stress shows up for you. Stress is sneaky. Some days it’ll show up as irritation or annoyance, other days it’ll make you stay under the covers. Be mindful of how it plays out for you and use your tools every chance you get.

Stress isn’t the problem. Your ability to be resilient or not is. You can learn tools that can help you be more resilient and choose to not stay in a heightened nervous system response all the time.

You are not broken. You just need to keep remembering that you are not the noise, the trauma, the emotions, the bodily discomfort or the stress, you are the harmony, the beautiful music underneath all of that.

You have to keep reaching for what will soothe you and enhance your harmony. Sometimes it can be a session with me. Sometimes it’ll be doing something you love like making art or talking to a friend. Sometimes it’ll be stepping out or pausing for ten minutes or using a tool like EFT Tapping or meditation to bring yourself back into being tuned.

I am here for you if you need support in getting in touch with your inner self healer and becoming the music you are meant to be.

With love, light, and gratitude,
Damla

P.S. I am working on a new online course that will be available for you soon. 

Introduction To EFT Tapping will teach you a powerful, elegant, and effective tool to help you release your on-going stress as well as begin to shift any energetic patterns that no longer serve you. This course will allow you to safely take care of your body and calmly handle whatever life throws at you.​

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P.S. too I contributed to this article which features some wonderful self-care tips during social distancing. Read it here.

Here’s what I am doing to stay sane, loving and graceful during my quarantine time. Please share in the comments your unique and most life-affirming ways to stay grounded at this time.

• I exercise, stretch and get outside. I am doing a 30-minute barre/pilates workout in the morning and a 30-40 minute yoga in the evening (with my openfit.com subscription). I am also allowing myself to skip a workout when I don’t feel like it or if I am moving through my moon cycle when my energy is usually low. We are so lucky to live in an area with lots of trees and beautiful roads to walk in. We take advantage of it daily to soak up the sun. Some days, when the temperature feels comfy, I meditate or read sitting outside which is so delicious.
• I am closely monitoring my own nervous system. I am taking breaks, practicing EFT and meditation, making time for naps and doing salt baths whenever I can. I am truly taking it one day and one breath at a time, treating this time as a tremendous opportunity for soul growth.
• I am also monitoring my family’s nervous system and supporting them with all my Healer tools. Last week my daughter started to cry just as she was about to go to sleep saying ‘Mom, what if I get sick and accidentally make you sick and then you and dad die?’ She is only 7 years old and although we are really careful not to repeat or watch the news around her, she knows exactly what’s happening and has every right to feel the way she feels. We tapped together until her tears dried and the intensity of her anxiety and stress fell from 10 to 0. This is also proving to be a time where I get to enjoy her company immensely and guide her through her emotional landscape which I am truly grateful for.
• We alternate our work and keep revisiting our boundaries. My husband has the mornings to do his work while I watch my daughter and guide her schoolwork. I have the evenings to do my work, although I can fit in small things here and there while my daughter does her schoolwork. We alternate making breakfast, I make lunch and he makes dinner. Some days if he is busier, I pick up the afternoon shift too. On other days he gives me a break. We also constantly communicate about our expectations, boundaries and false stories in our relationship and clear the air.
• I rely on my intuition every single day. This time is another reminder that consulting my intuition, connecting with my soul and the soul of life all around me is not optional, it is an absolute necessity.
• I pay attention to my dreams. Last night in my dream I suddenly find myself in a Plácido Domingo concert. I woke up repeating his name and the guidance was ‘look up the meaning’. Plácido means calm and peaceful. Domingo means lord or master of something. The very clear message was that we are all called to be masters of calm and peace during this time of our lives.
• I ask for clear guidance before I get up from my bed. Within the quiet connection to my soul in the space between dreaming and being awake, I ask my soul and soul helpers, what I need to prioritize that particular day and what I need to be aware of. Some days it is about me drinking more water, some days it is taking the time to be with my daughter, some days it is about a particular thing I am working on with regards to my online business. Some days it sharing something important with my community. And some days it is a combination of a little bit of everything.
• I limit my exposure to the news. I check the news once in the morning and once before bedtime. My husband and I keep each other informed of what we see, sometimes we catch different news than each other and let each other know.
• I share what I feel is useful, uplifting, and necessary. I have shared two free meditations with my community, which I feel would be powerful for anyone who adds them to their life. I share any local resources or information that I feel is relevant in my social media, and most days I just want to share what I’ve always shared with you: things, thoughts, words, resources that can help you on your healing journey and may take you one step further.
• We call, text, and connect with our family and friends every single day. Now more than ever. A single SMS with a funny picture is enough to uplift a day. I am also truly grateful for our connection through social media and to be able to share our resources as well as our experiences.
• I am truly grateful. I feel so incredibly lucky for all that we have in our lives. Every single night I fall asleep with a single mantra ‘I am infinitely grateful’ and I let the words sink deep into my bones, pores and energy field.
• I continue to work on what matters to me. I am continuing to improve my website, message, offerings, and my communication with you. I have quite a few exciting things lined up that I am so excited to share with you soon. This is what brings life to my veins, sharing what I know as a Healer and making the tools, practices, experiences that I know are healing and life-changing with more people and in deeper ways. Please stay tuned, and if you haven’t already, sign up to my email list here.

When the coronavirus news started to air, some of us began to feel the energetic effects of it stronger than others. I have written about the case of the fried toaster before. Those of us with energetic wounds had our wires fried earlier than others resulting in exposed wires and an easily overloaded energetic system. You can find out about what your energetic wounds are by downloading a list of questions here.

Your untended to energetic wounds continue to live in your system as a vulnerability. Every time something big and stressful hits you, like the coronavirus news, or a big change or shift in your life or a significant life event, your already leaking electrical system will have a hard time processing things which will result in body discomfort and emotions going haywire.

Think of another possibility: what if life hits you but you are able to create a safe space within your body and you are able to handle whatever life throws at you including an excess load of electricity. This is what self-healing and healing are all about. You take the responsibility to take care of your needs and re-mother and re-father yourself. You learn and have access to practices, tools, and methods that will help you handle what is here. You become a self-sustaining, regenerating, extraordinarily beautiful electrical energetic flowing system.

Here’s how you can begin to tend to your electrical and energetic system in times of increased stress:

• Take what is not essential off your plate. You don’t need to do it all while your system is already overworking.
• Create a practice of coating your exposed electrical wires aka taking care of your nervous system. All those years of carrying wounds have overloaded your nervous system and created erosions and exposed wires. Practicing EFT Tapping can begin to re-coat your wiring with a soothing layer through your loving gaze and awareness. If you are living with energetic wounds or in other words if you are a trauma survivor, I strongly suggest that you learn EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). You can download a free EFT Tapping Meditation here that will teach you the basics and you can use it every single day to strengthen your wiring.
• Trust that all of this is happening not to you but for you. Every time our energetic and electrical systems get overloaded it is an opportunity to upgrade your hardware and software with new practices and an updated outlook on life. Think of this time as a welcome learning challenge. Trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
• Pay attention to your dreams. In times of potent growth, you need to pay attention to what your inner guidance is trying to communicate with you. I have been having the same themed dream since the coronavirus news started which is telling me that there is something here for me to learn and grow into. Pay attention to the repeated symbols in your dreams knowing that everything you see and what they mean will be unique to you. Just ask your intuition right after you wake up to know without a doubt what the symbolism means for you. You can also ask to dream about a question or a solution that you need right before going to bed. I am talking about how to receive dream guidance here.
• Clear your electrical and energetic pathways. Take your energetic and electrical health seriously. All of my private sessions work on exactly this: clearing your energetic pathways and strengthening your electrical signal. I especially recommend that you consider booking a Sonic Meridian Flush which is designed to open up your meridians and boost your electrical signal. All my private sessions can be booked as an online video chat. This is a wonderful time to invest in your energetic and electrical health. Learn more about my private healing sessions here. Right now I am running a promotion and you can book all my sessions with my 2019 pricing until the end of May 2020.
• Boost the amount of electricity you are carrying. Medical Medium Anthony William has a beautiful resource on choosing electrically nourishing foods and letting go of what rubs you of precious life energy. In short, this means choosing foods that are rich in electrons such as fresh and raw fruits and vegetables and letting go of foods that overload your system and rub you of electricity such as processed foods and foods high in fat.
• Get out and get some sun. Sun is beaming down electrons and electricity on us every single day. Take advantage of it and fill your system with the healing rays of the sun.
• Get grounded. Take your shoes off or invest in electrically grounding shoes or sandals that are made up of conductive materials, that will allow you to really ground and receive free electrons from the Earth. Underneath your feet and in your palms, you have special electron receiving capability. If you have rubber-soled shoes, just press your palms on Earth whenever you can however long you can. I am talking more about earthing here.
• Become an expert in self-healing. This is your body. This is your life. You have to learn how to re-mother and re-father yourself. You have to learn how to tend to your needs with or without help. You have to realize that all of this is a practice and a process. You may feel horrible one day and uplifted on another. You’ll need quiet contemplation and the right tools to know what you need when. Quiet contemplation may look like a few rounds of EFT, time spent outside or sitting on your couch with a warm tea, or it could be taking 10 minutes to sit and simply breathe. In that contemplation, you’ll get to see what is rising up to the surface, what needs a loving gaze, what you can let go and in what areas you could use some help. Here’s a free meditation to help you connect with your inner child and figure out what she/he needs most today.

If you need help navigating this time, feeling grounded, and tending to your energetic and electrical health, contact me.

With love, light, and gratitude,

Damla

I have a deeply personal thing to share with you. Are you ready? Here it goes: my English is not perfect. I grew up in Turkey and Turkish is my mother tongue. In case you have been wondering what it is you hear differently when I speak, I have a Turkish accent. I started to learn English in 6th grade or middle school in Turkey when I was 12 years old. I moved to the US for my MBA in 2002 and have been living here ever since.

Here’s what you need to understand about someone who speaks English or any other language as their second language and especially if they learned it later in life: my English goes out the door when I am tired, when it is the evening, when I get stressed, when I am overwhelmed, when I am sad, etc. Having grown up in Turkey and studied there until the end of college, I count in my mind in Turkish, I mostly dream in Turkish, I curse in Turkish, I measure things metrically in my mind and Turkish is my default language. That said, I also have successfully navigated grad school, working in the corporate world, changing careers and building my own business from scratch through my seemingly imperfect English.

Here’s what I know: I know that some of you listen to me and cringe. You talk to me and you want to immediately put words into my mouth and correct me, or you find yourself editing my words as you read them. I know that this is also how you treat yourself. Nothing is ever good enough. So my heart goes out to you.

I also want you to know that I have some of that self-doubt virus that you have, in me. I find myself reading, re-reading and editing every piece of Facebook post, blog post, email or written material that I write a gazillion times. I had to stop myself from re-recording a 45-minute beautifully recorded meditation because I stumbled on a single word. So I am right there with you judging and criticizing myself.

I once had to leave a creative writing group because they thought my writing was something I should be embarrassed about submitting to the group to be read. What they didn’t know and understand was I had read, re-read and rewritten that piece to the best of my ability a thousand times. My husband once said to me when a corporate employer complained about my accent ‘They should be grateful that they get you in the way that you are with all your gifts.’

Our household is bilingual that means that every single day my brain is firing a whole lot more than a single language speaker. I am deeply creative not only because it is my passion but also because I can think and dream in a completely different language than almost everyone around me and I can bring the gifts of those dreams into my life and work. In addition to English, I also speak a decent amount of German and have even written a graduate thesis in German. I am currently learning Spanish for the pure joy of getting to understand a whole new worldview.

Here’s what I also know: while I work through my mind viruses of ‘I am not good enough’, ‘this is garbage’, ‘who am I to give any advice or write this’, they are not going to stop me from putting what comes through me out there for you. I will keep recording videos, courses, I will keep offering workshops, I will keep working on inspiring you for self-healing and healing with every tool that I have (including my English skills) and at every chance that I get.

The energy and vibration speak louder than words. When I look back at all that I have created and will create I know that what matters most is my willingness to be vulnerable, having a pure intention of healing others and letting those energies speak in the tone of my voice and writing, rather than with the perfection of my punctuation or the accurateness of my grammar.

I want you to sit with this and ask yourself. When do you judge others without knowing who they are and their full story? When do you judge yourself? And if you wish to experience how it feels to be a fish in a sea you weren’t born into, I invite you to try learning a new language to enhance your brain activity and get humbled.

With love and lots of gratitude for you for continuing to listen, watch, read and follow and absorb the energetic contents of my work and for making healing your energetic wounds a priority. 

Damla

In this video I am sharing my own story of coming face to face with all my unmet needs and my discoveries about what needs are, what their layers are and how meeting your needs can contribute to healing your energetic wounds. I also talk about:

– What is the first step in beginning to heal your energetic wounds?
– Why do your needs matter?
– What can you do if you don’t have the time, resources or the energy to tend to your needs?

In this video, I am talking about what your vibrational reality is and how and why you need tools, practices and the occasional help to tend to your vibration.

Learn more about my online course Tending To Your Needs. Tending To Your Needs is an online course to set the foundation for your healing and help you to recognize, name, prioritize and meet your needs with or without help. It is all about learning more about your needs and how to make them a priority. You will learn a variety of tools and practices to be able to address your vibrational needs as they arise.

This course is open for enrollment ONLY THE NEXT SEVEN DAYS until February 20, 2020 ​with introductory pricing of $97. ​

It will never be offered at this price again.

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When is the last time you gave yourself the gift of paying attention to your needs?

How can you tend to your vibrational needs that you don’t have a way to put into words?

When you don’t care for your needs, what are you missing out?

How can you get the support of the universe and your ancestors for tending to your needs?

What can you do to release the resistance between you and prioritizing your needs?

I have been working with all these questions, tumbling with them, dreaming, receiving guidance, and looking for ways to answer them. Through these inquiries I have developed an online course that I believe answers all these questions and makes tools that address all layers of your needs readily available at your fingertips.

Tending To Your Needs is an online course to set the foundation for your healing and help you to recognize, name, prioritize and meet your needs with or without help. I want to help you learn more about how your needs work, what their layers are and how to make them a priority.

When you don’t pay attention to yourself your needs just get louder and more painful to embody. The problem is we don’t have a good understanding of what a need is. Satisfying a need is not the same as self-care. You can actually survive without self-care but you can’t survive or thrive without satisfying your needs. Needs are requirements to live a purposeful and vibrant life.

I have discovered that your needs have layers. Within the needs of the moment are also the needs of the two year old in you, and the needs of your ancestors who went through trauma, loss and migration. Unless you bring a loving attention to all layers of your being, no amount of drinking green juices, walking in nature or taking yoga classes will help you feel better.

You may not be aware that you have needs. We are not taught the language and the ecology of our needs and that we are allowed to have needs. This course is designed to teach you how needs work and how your needs can co-exist with the needs of others in your life

You may be aware of your needs but you are not sure how to satisfy them or how to get past your resistance. You don’t know where to start to prioritize your needs. This course is definitely for you.

You may know about your needs and you may have a few tools to work with them but they don’t always work and you feel like something is missing. You are open to a deeper understanding of your needs and a deeper connection with yourself. This course is the missing link you have been looking for.

I am opening the doors to this course until February 20th, 2020. I decided to offer it at $97 introductory pricing. All the course content is worth over $300. It will never be at this price point again and I have no idea when I will be able to launch it again. The course has five modules (over 3.5 hours of videos) and 8 guided and EFT Tapping meditations (over 4 hours of audio).

When I look at what needs to happen to effectively heal energetic wounds, a clear understanding of how to tend to the layers of your needs comes out as the first step. This is the culmination of all my personal, one-on-one and group healing work. I truly believe that tending to your needs is the first step to begin to heal your energetic wounds. I am a believer in self-healing and this course is designed to empower you to make your needs a priority at your own timing and with effective tools.

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